Ladies You Never Want to Be an Eve

A few years ago I received a pivotal revelation in my marriage. One day I was praying after one of the many disagreements John and I had over a decision he wanted to make in the church and my disagreement with it. I can be very opinionated and vocal in my opinions, and because my husband and I are so different our differences used to cause us to disagree a lot when it came to different approaches to handling things in the ministry. One day after a heated argument I was praying about this and God said to me, "Eboni you have to learn when to shut up. You keep going and going, and you have to learn when to just be quiet and stop talking." He then went on to show me something in scripture that I want to share with women today, especially married women or those who are about to get married.

We all know the story in Genesis 3 of Eve and how she convinced Adam to disobey God by biting the fruit. In reading the story in the past I never took the time to really think about what was going on inside of Eve when she gave him the fruit to eat. She didn't do it to be mean or to maliciously disobey God. The bible says she was deceived. A deceived person doesn't know they are deceived, why, because they are deceived. Eve really believed with everything in her that this is what they needed to do. Her heart told her so, her emotions told her so, she KNEW this is what they should do in order to be wise. I can imagine like me she was passionate about what they should do and persuaded Adam. When I believe something I am very passionate about it and won't let up. I keep talking trying to convince my husband to see my way because I KNOW this is what we need to do, or this is what HE should do. The danger in that is we as women are not called to LEAD our families. Our husbands are, and like it or not women, when we as women lead the family over our husband we are out of order. Does this mean that we have no opinion? No, of course not, but there is a difference in suggesting and voicing your opinion and taking control, directing or convincing your husband to do what YOU think he should do. What is being an Eve? It is when your husband really feels a certain decision needs to be made which you disagree with, and you talk him into going against what he feels in his heart should be done to do what what you feel.

This brings me to an important point for single women. Single ladies, because God's design is that the man is the head of the household it is very important that you make a wise choice in who you marry. Hear me very clearly ladies, when you choose to marry a man you are choosing who you are going to submit to. Just because he is irresponsible and immature that doesn't exclude you from having to respect him or allowing him to lead your family. I know this is tough and it takes revelation from God, but God's order is his order and when implemented correctly it flows beautifully. His order isn't the problem, it's our unwise choices in choosing a respectable mate that you can follow. We choose to marry immature men who aren't ready to be the head of anything let alone a family and then want God to erase his order for the family. It doesn't work that way. The time to decide whether you want to follow a man's leading is BEFORE you get married. If you don't respect him now you won't after marriage. Remember your mate is a product of your intelligent decision. I know it's tough but it's true.

So what do you do if you are married to a man who you don't respect or feel is capable of leading your family?  The answer to that is a conversation that we need to have one on one. It would take to long to go into it here so I encourage you to email me and I will speak with you personally and specific to your situation. My email address is www.johnebon@gmail.com. In the subject line let me know that it is in response to the blog so that I will know it isn't spam.  To everyone else take some time to think about what I said here and if you have any questions feel free to post and we can discuss.

Eboni~~

A few years ago I received a pivotal revelation in my marriage. One day I was praying after one of the many disagreements John and I had over a decision he wanted to make in the church and my disagreement with it. I can be very opinionated and vocal in my opinions, and because my husband and I are so different our differences used to cause us to disagree a lot when it came to different approaches to handling things in the ministry. One day after a heated argument I was praying about this and God said to me, "Eboni you have to learn when to shut up. You keep going and going, and you have to learn when to just be quiet and stop talking." He then went on to show me something in scripture that I want to share with women today, especially married women or those who are about to get married.

We all know the story in Genesis 3 of Eve and how she convinced Adam to disobey God by biting the fruit. In reading the story in the past I never took the time to really think about what was going on inside of Eve when she gave him the fruit to eat. She didn't do it to be mean or to maliciously disobey God. The bible says she was deceived. A deceived person doesn't know they are deceived, why, because they are deceived. Eve really believed with everything in her that this is what they needed to do. Her heart told her so, her emotions told her so, she KNEW this is what they should do in order to be wise. I can imagine like me she was passionate about what they should do and persuaded Adam. When I believe something I am very passionate about it and won't let up. I keep talking trying to convince my husband to see my way because I KNOW this is what we need to do, or this is what HE should do. The danger in that is we as women are not called to LEAD our families. Our husbands are, and like it or not women, when we as women lead the family over our husband we are out of order. Does this mean that we have no opinion? No, of course not, but there is a difference in suggesting and voicing your opinion and taking control, directing or convincing your husband to do what YOU think he should do. What is being an Eve? It is when your husband really feels a certain decision needs to be made which you disagree with, and you talk him into going against what he feels in his heart should be done to do what what you feel.

This brings me to an important point for single women. Single ladies, because God's design is that the man is the head of the household it is very important that you make a wise choice in who you marry. Hear me very clearly ladies, when you choose to marry a man you are choosing who you are going to submit to. Just because he is irresponsible and immature that doesn't exclude you from having to respect him or allowing him to lead your family. I know this is tough and it takes revelation from God, but God's order is his order and when implemented correctly it flows beautifully. His order isn't the problem, it's our unwise choices in choosing a respectable mate that you can follow. We choose to marry immature men who aren't ready to be the head of anything let alone a family and then want God to erase his order for the family. It doesn't work that way. The time to decide whether you want to follow a man's leading is BEFORE you get married. If you don't respect him now you won't after marriage. Remember your mate is a product of your intelligent decision. I know it's tough but it's true.

So what do you do if you are married to a man who you don't respect or feel is capable of leading your family?  The answer to that is a conversation that we need to have one on one. It would take to long to go into it here so I encourage you to email me and I will speak with you personally and specific to your situation. My email address is www.johnebon@gmail.com. In the subject line let me know that it is in response to the blog so that I will know it isn't spam.  To everyone else take some time to think about what I said here and if you have any questions feel free to post and we can discuss.

Eboni~~

Every Christian Should Read This

Hi everyone, long time no Blog :-) I wanted to take a few minutes to share something that I think would be tremendously helpful. All over the world people are having to adjust to living with less. How do you endure a major decrease in your monthly income without loosing your mind, becoming offended at God and giving up, or living in a constant state of depression? I will tell you how... you realize CHRIST is IN YOU not the situation. Don't look to situations to see God. God is in you and he will manifest himself in what ever situation  you find yourself.

It's human nature to get attached to things. We get used to living our life and we subconciously begin to trust in or derive our peace and sense of happiness from those things. I.E. our dream car, dream house, our mate, or jobs. Then if any of those things are taken away we are left bewildered, confused, and afraid. Especially if it is something that we wanted really bad and finally got it, or something that we credited God as blessing us with like a Job. What happens when you are laid off of the job, does it mean God didn't give it to you? No, of course not. A lesson that I had to learn was, we live in a TEMPORAL world, and EVERYTHING in this physical world is subject to change. The only things that are ETERNAL and not subject to change are the spiritual promises that we have IN CHRIST.


(2 Cor. 4:18) While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Your job, even the one God blessed you with may have to make cut backs. Your income may change and you can no longer afford your home, or your possesions. Your kids may not be able to stay in private school. That is why it is imperative that we don't derive our identity, happiness, confidence in any of these physical things. We must get our identity, happiness, and peace from Christ.

God is the God of TODAY, not yesterday, not tomorrow, he deals in TODAY. We can't even allow ourselves to get attached to past experiences with God, because He is in us not the Experience. Just like he manifested himself  to you in the past , he will manifest himself today and everyday. This truth applies in all situations. It may be a job that he blessed you with that has somehow come to an end, or a home that he blessed you with that you can no longer afford. What we have to understand is that Christ is in US and whether you live in a home or an apartment, you will love it and have peace because your peace doesn't come from the place you live, it comes from Christ. He can manifest himself out of you in EVERY situation that you find yourself.

Your position in Christ is such a difference maker. It is how you can live in this unstable world and not BE unstable. HE alone is our Rock! Be blessed guys,
Eboni

Hi everyone, long time no Blog :-) I wanted to take a few minutes to share something that I think would be tremendously helpful. All over the world people are having to adjust to living with less. How do you endure a major decrease in your monthly income without loosing your mind, becoming offended at God and giving up, or living in a constant state of depression? I will tell you how... you realize CHRIST is IN YOU not the situation. Don't look to situations to see God. God is in you and he will manifest himself in what ever situation  you find yourself.

It's human nature to get attached to things. We get used to living our life and we subconciously begin to trust in or derive our peace and sense of happiness from those things. I.E. our dream car, dream house, our mate, or jobs. Then if any of those things are taken away we are left bewildered, confused, and afraid. Especially if it is something that we wanted really bad and finally got it, or something that we credited God as blessing us with like a Job. What happens when you are laid off of the job, does it mean God didn't give it to you? No, of course not. A lesson that I had to learn was, we live in a TEMPORAL world, and EVERYTHING in this physical world is subject to change. The only things that are ETERNAL and not subject to change are the spiritual promises that we have IN CHRIST.


(2 Cor. 4:18) While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Your job, even the one God blessed you with may have to make cut backs. Your income may change and you can no longer afford your home, or your possesions. Your kids may not be able to stay in private school. That is why it is imperative that we don't derive our identity, happiness, confidence in any of these physical things. We must get our identity, happiness, and peace from Christ.

God is the God of TODAY, not yesterday, not tomorrow, he deals in TODAY. We can't even allow ourselves to get attached to past experiences with God, because He is in us not the Experience. Just like he manifested himself  to you in the past , he will manifest himself today and everyday. This truth applies in all situations. It may be a job that he blessed you with that has somehow come to an end, or a home that he blessed you with that you can no longer afford. What we have to understand is that Christ is in US and whether you live in a home or an apartment, you will love it and have peace because your peace doesn't come from the place you live, it comes from Christ. He can manifest himself out of you in EVERY situation that you find yourself.

Your position in Christ is such a difference maker. It is how you can live in this unstable world and not BE unstable. HE alone is our Rock! Be blessed guys,
Eboni

Letting Go of the Reigns

The person who really does begin to move is the person who has had his final despair over himself, and has come to see quite clearly by the Holy Spirit's illumination that it is "no longer I, but Christ"—'Not what I am, O Lord, but what Thou art, that, that alone, can be my soul's true rest': Thy love, not mine; Thy peace, not mine; Thy rest, not mine; Thy everything, nothing of mine; Thyself! That is the essential foundation of spiritual growth, spiritual knowledge, spiritual education. " T. Austin Sparks


For me personally, I despair over my inability and feelings of insignificance and limitations. The Apostle Paul said he gloried in his inabilities because he knew that in his weakness Christ's strength was made perfect. This is so drastically different from what we are taught in the world. We are taught that our weaknesses are bad, our failures and flaws need to be fixed so people will approve of us or deem us good...worthy. It is because of this belief that I am having such a hard time with letting go, giving up total control of my life. There are so many things that I would change about myself and my life that I feel actually hinder me from doing what I think needs to be done, or hinders me from having what I think would be the perfect life. When from God's view those very weaknesses are what allow HIM to work through me best, because truly when I am at an end of myself only then can I truly rely totally on him and it not be my power but HIS power, not be my wisdom but his widom, not my strength but his strength. HIS LIFE not mine in operation in me.

My husband is in a series right now entitled "Heavenly Minded, Earthly Good", It's bringing me face to face with how much control I want over my life. He said something in this message that really hit home with me. He said, "to be heavenly minded is when your soul becomes aware of the reality of it's position in Christ. Understanding this will cause you to look out at the world from where you dwell, which is in Christ, and no longer see the world out from your situations and earthly circumstances."

For so long I have looked out at the world through my circumstances. My circumstances are what have defined how I viewed myself and our church. I have always had this feeling of not having enough. Where our church is concerned I have often felt like God left us hanging, that there were so many things that we should be doing but can't because of lack of people, finances and resources. In my personal life for so long I have defined myself by my credit score. If it was good I felt better about myself, if it was bad I felt worse about myself. With this teaching I am coming to realize that having Christ be my life means that with God our strength, ability, power, wisdom, and accomplishments are not pluses, but in actuality they are hinderances to God being able to move in me and in our church. God is so other than man kind.


He actually views our human strengths as weaknesses because the better I am in an area the more apt I am to trust in my ability. That is why Paul said, "For you see your calling, brethren, that not many wise according to the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called.  But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, that no flesh should glory in His presence. But of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became for us wisdom from God—and righteousness and sanctification and redemption— that, as it is written, “He who glories, let him glory in the LORD.”

I say again God is so OTHER than Man Kind and as the Holy Spirit continues to reveal Christ as my life... I long for the day when I no longer despise my weaknesses but on the contrary count all my accomplishments as dung and ONLY glory in HIM!

The person who really does begin to move is the person who has had his final despair over himself, and has come to see quite clearly by the Holy Spirit's illumination that it is "no longer I, but Christ"—'Not what I am, O Lord, but what Thou art, that, that alone, can be my soul's true rest': Thy love, not mine; Thy peace, not mine; Thy rest, not mine; Thy everything, nothing of mine; Thyself! That is the essential foundation of spiritual growth, spiritual knowledge, spiritual education. " T. Austin Sparks


For me personally, I despair over my inability and feelings of insignificance and limitations. The Apostle Paul said he gloried in his inabilities because he knew that in his weakness Christ's strength was made perfect. This is so drastically different from what we are taught in the world. We are taught that our weaknesses are bad, our failures and flaws need to be fixed so people will approve of us or deem us good...worthy. It is because of this belief that I am having such a hard time with letting go, giving up total control of my life. There are so many things that I would change about myself and my life that I feel actually hinder me from doing what I think needs to be done, or hinders me from having what I think would be the perfect life. When from God's view those very weaknesses are what allow HIM to work through me best, because truly when I am at an end of myself only then can I truly rely totally on him and it not be my power but HIS power, not be my wisdom but his widom, not my strength but his strength. HIS LIFE not mine in operation in me.

My husband is in a series right now entitled "Heavenly Minded, Earthly Good", It's bringing me face to face with how much control I want over my life. He said something in this message that really hit home with me. He said, "to be heavenly minded is when your soul becomes aware of the reality of it's position in Christ. Understanding this will cause you to look out at the world from where you dwell, which is in Christ, and no longer see the world out from your situations and earthly circumstances."

For so long I have looked out at the world through my circumstances. My circumstances are what have defined how I viewed myself and our church. I have always had this feeling of not having enough. Where our church is concerned I have often felt like God left us hanging, that there were so many things that we should be doing but can't because of lack of people, finances and resources. In my personal life for so long I have defined myself by my credit score. If it was good I felt better about myself, if it was bad I felt worse about myself. With this teaching I am coming to realize that having Christ be my life means that with God our strength, ability, power, wisdom, and accomplishments are not pluses, but in actuality they are hinderances to God being able to move in me and in our church. God is so other than man kind.


He actually views our human strengths as weaknesses because the better I am in an area the more apt I am to trust in my ability. That is why Paul said, "For you see your calling, brethren, that not many wise according to the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called.  But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, that no flesh should glory in His presence. But of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became for us wisdom from God—and righteousness and sanctification and redemption— that, as it is written, “He who glories, let him glory in the LORD.”

I say again God is so OTHER than Man Kind and as the Holy Spirit continues to reveal Christ as my life... I long for the day when I no longer despise my weaknesses but on the contrary count all my accomplishments as dung and ONLY glory in HIM!

Your Days of Dread are Over!

Hello everyone, If you are facing a deadline or date right now that you're are afraid of and dreading the coming of this particular day, if  right now you can't see how the situation will turn out in your favor, let me offer you some insight into what I learned when I was in a similar situation. The first thing as a believer you should realize is YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this situation, Christ is with you. You are right now seated in Christ far above that circumstance. You ALREADY have victory IN CHRIST over that situation. There is a VERY REAL other side of your current situation that YOU can not see right now, but just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't real.

Consider for a minute how Christ dealt with situations. For instance, in the story of Jesus raising Lazurus from the dead found in John 11, on the way to raise Lazarus as Jesus and the disciples discussed his death, Jesus spoke of Lazarus as sleeping. To everyone else Lazarus was dead but from Christ' perspective he was asleep. When Jesus showed up after Lazarus had died everyone else was weeping, mourning and feeling defeated what was the outcome? Christ raised him from the dead. Let's take the story of Jesus and the disciples on the boat in the midst of the storm found in Mark 4. They thought they were going to die but from Christ' perspective they were going to the other side and he slept in the midst of the storm. In Mark 6 in the example of the 5000 who were hungry and needed to be fed all the disciples' minds could see was that they only had 2 fish and 5 loaves of bread, and there was no way they could feed all those people. Christ had another perspective of the situation.

I know that these are all familiar stories and I am not trying to "hype" you up. What I want you to realize is the Person who helped, changed, fixed, and delivered in those situations is still alive today, and if you are born again HE lives on the inside of you RIGHT NOW, and you have access to HIS mind and perspective of YOUR situation RIGHT NOW. What YOU are currently seeing about your situation although it may be a fact is only one side of the situation. There is another higher view that God has of the situation that has not entered into your heart or mind. So you can either spend everyday leading up to that day/deadline worried about it OR... you can take one day at a time and allow Christ to be bread for you TODAY. You have enough Grace for TODAY. Experience him as such TODAY and then when tomorrow comes you will experience him then also. If you choose to worry by the time that day comes you will have spent so many days focused on the problem that in your mind the problem will be huge and God and his ability will be small, but if you can spend everyday with HIM focused on Christ by the time that day arrives you will have HIS view on the situation. The peace that we have in Christ is real and everything doesn't have to be going right in order for you to experience it. You can experience him and all HIS fullness RIGHT now right where you ARE.

If you are in the Atlanta area you really should visit Total Victory International Ministries. If you are not, I encourage you to visit our website www.totalvictoryexperience.com There are tons of messages online free for you there and also at our you tube page "The Total Victory Exp".

Be Encouraged Guys The Victory you have in Christ is real!

Eboni

Hello everyone, If you are facing a deadline or date right now that you're are afraid of and dreading the coming of this particular day, if  right now you can't see how the situation will turn out in your favor, let me offer you some insight into what I learned when I was in a similar situation. The first thing as a believer you should realize is YOU ARE NOT ALONE in this situation, Christ is with you. You are right now seated in Christ far above that circumstance. You ALREADY have victory IN CHRIST over that situation. There is a VERY REAL other side of your current situation that YOU can not see right now, but just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't real.

Consider for a minute how Christ dealt with situations. For instance, in the story of Jesus raising Lazurus from the dead found in John 11, on the way to raise Lazarus as Jesus and the disciples discussed his death, Jesus spoke of Lazarus as sleeping. To everyone else Lazarus was dead but from Christ' perspective he was asleep. When Jesus showed up after Lazarus had died everyone else was weeping, mourning and feeling defeated what was the outcome? Christ raised him from the dead. Let's take the story of Jesus and the disciples on the boat in the midst of the storm found in Mark 4. They thought they were going to die but from Christ' perspective they were going to the other side and he slept in the midst of the storm. In Mark 6 in the example of the 5000 who were hungry and needed to be fed all the disciples' minds could see was that they only had 2 fish and 5 loaves of bread, and there was no way they could feed all those people. Christ had another perspective of the situation.

I know that these are all familiar stories and I am not trying to "hype" you up. What I want you to realize is the Person who helped, changed, fixed, and delivered in those situations is still alive today, and if you are born again HE lives on the inside of you RIGHT NOW, and you have access to HIS mind and perspective of YOUR situation RIGHT NOW. What YOU are currently seeing about your situation although it may be a fact is only one side of the situation. There is another higher view that God has of the situation that has not entered into your heart or mind. So you can either spend everyday leading up to that day/deadline worried about it OR... you can take one day at a time and allow Christ to be bread for you TODAY. You have enough Grace for TODAY. Experience him as such TODAY and then when tomorrow comes you will experience him then also. If you choose to worry by the time that day comes you will have spent so many days focused on the problem that in your mind the problem will be huge and God and his ability will be small, but if you can spend everyday with HIM focused on Christ by the time that day arrives you will have HIS view on the situation. The peace that we have in Christ is real and everything doesn't have to be going right in order for you to experience it. You can experience him and all HIS fullness RIGHT now right where you ARE.

If you are in the Atlanta area you really should visit Total Victory International Ministries. If you are not, I encourage you to visit our website www.totalvictoryexperience.com There are tons of messages online free for you there and also at our you tube page "The Total Victory Exp".

Be Encouraged Guys The Victory you have in Christ is real!

Eboni

I Have Had to Remind Myself of This Many Times.

Hello All,
I received a call today from someone who is in a very difficult situation. She like so many is facing the very likely possibility of a layoff, and the thoughts have begun to bombard her mind. You know the "what if" scenarios that our minds will so easily play over and over for us when we receive devastating news. What if I don't find another job, how will I pay my bills, how will I take care of my kids, what's going to happen. What if he leaves, what if I don't get well, what if they come get the car, what if they foreclose on the house, what if I can't come up with the money...what if...what if? I listened to her and I told her the same thing I have told myself many times. Regardless of what you are going through, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Christ is there with you and HIS GRACE is sufficient for you IN THIS situation. In YOUR weakness HIS strength is made perfect. All you can see right now is the storm. You can't see past the storm to the other side, but there is another side.

One of the things that I am observing about Christ is how calm and unaffected he was by wayward circumstances. He was the definition of Peace. The peace that he has is a heavenly, superior, peace. It is not affected by natural circumstances. He was able to sleep in the middle of a storm that was so intense the disciples thought they were going to die. They were bailing water and he was resting. Before he left to go be with the Father he left that peace with us (John 14:27). The same peace that allowed him to be on a boat asleep in the middle of a hurricane we now have as apart of our Salvation.

Most of the things we worry about are temporary situations. They are going to pass away. The mortgages we stress and worry about paying are going to pass away. The cars we cry over not being able to pay for are going to pass away. All the things that take so much of our time, energy, strength and joy are going to pass away. That is why Paul said to CHOOSE to think on the things that are eternal. (Philippians 4) Jesus also told us to LET not our HEARTS be troubled or afraid.You do this by on purpose focusing your mind on Christ and who HE is. Interrupt your emotions with the truth of God's word. The promises of God are real, they all find there Yes in Christ. You can stake your life on and rest in them. HE WILL GET YOU THROUGH, just like he got you through the last time.

I encourage you to visit our website http://www.totalvictoryexperience.com or our YouTube page "The Total Victory Exp" we have tons of messages free for you online that will help you during these times.
Be encouraged and KNOW that you are not alone,
Eboni

Hello All,
I received a call today from someone who is in a very difficult situation. She like so many is facing the very likely possibility of a layoff, and the thoughts have begun to bombard her mind. You know the "what if" scenarios that our minds will so easily play over and over for us when we receive devastating news. What if I don't find another job, how will I pay my bills, how will I take care of my kids, what's going to happen. What if he leaves, what if I don't get well, what if they come get the car, what if they foreclose on the house, what if I can't come up with the money...what if...what if? I listened to her and I told her the same thing I have told myself many times. Regardless of what you are going through, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Christ is there with you and HIS GRACE is sufficient for you IN THIS situation. In YOUR weakness HIS strength is made perfect. All you can see right now is the storm. You can't see past the storm to the other side, but there is another side.

One of the things that I am observing about Christ is how calm and unaffected he was by wayward circumstances. He was the definition of Peace. The peace that he has is a heavenly, superior, peace. It is not affected by natural circumstances. He was able to sleep in the middle of a storm that was so intense the disciples thought they were going to die. They were bailing water and he was resting. Before he left to go be with the Father he left that peace with us (John 14:27). The same peace that allowed him to be on a boat asleep in the middle of a hurricane we now have as apart of our Salvation.

Most of the things we worry about are temporary situations. They are going to pass away. The mortgages we stress and worry about paying are going to pass away. The cars we cry over not being able to pay for are going to pass away. All the things that take so much of our time, energy, strength and joy are going to pass away. That is why Paul said to CHOOSE to think on the things that are eternal. (Philippians 4) Jesus also told us to LET not our HEARTS be troubled or afraid.You do this by on purpose focusing your mind on Christ and who HE is. Interrupt your emotions with the truth of God's word. The promises of God are real, they all find there Yes in Christ. You can stake your life on and rest in them. HE WILL GET YOU THROUGH, just like he got you through the last time.

I encourage you to visit our website http://www.totalvictoryexperience.com or our YouTube page "The Total Victory Exp" we have tons of messages free for you online that will help you during these times.
Be encouraged and KNOW that you are not alone,
Eboni

LIFE Doesn't Consist in the Abundance of Things

My heart is really heavy, heavy because I see so many people hurting. We are living in the day where our economy is failing us. Jobs are unstable, which means money is unstable and when money is unstable it effects EVERYTHING. Health is effected because of stress, marriages are effected because of the stress of lack of money, violence increases because people in desperate situations do desperate things. I look around and I see so many people trusting in and looking to the wrong source for peace and happiness. As a society we feel SECURE because of our possessions, our jobs, our spouses and people, but when these things fail us and our spouses leave, our jobs end, our loved ones die...what are we left with. Do we have anything SOLID within us to keep us?

Contrary to what politicians promise it isn't going to get any better, it's only going to get worse. The economy isn't going to recover, the wars aren't going to stop. Storms and devastation and many other things were all prophesied by Christ and will increase until his return. He ISN'T causing them, God ISN'T causing them; FALLEN MANKIND is causing them. What do you do when the thing that is trying to fix the problem IS the problem? That is where we find ourselves as a nation. Politicians fill us with empty promises, they want to help but the truth is they don't know HOW to help because the real problem isn't war, violence or poverty; the real problem is a SOCIETY and CULTURE without GOD and without CHRIST.

Apart from GOD and HIS wisdom and understanding man is not capable of managing this planet OR even our own lives; and APART from Christ we have no access to GOD. We have a race of people on the planet who think they don't need God and certainly don't need Christ. When the truth is Christ is the only way to God, the only way to access his wisdom, life, strength, joy and peace.

So as a believer what do you do. How do you stay sane in the days that we are living in. You keep your eyes on CHRIST. Continue to learn of him. If you are in a church where man is the focus where you're told every Sunday what you aren't doing, what you need to change, what sin you need to stop in order for God to fellowship with you. Christ isn't the focus and you are being taught to focus on man. Get in a church where Christ is preached and HE is the center of every message. When you focus on HIM you begin to live by HIS mind, HIS wisdom, HIS strength, HIS joy HIS peace. Those things are NEVER shaken or effected by outward circumstances. Let HIM be your life. The only answer to the dilemma that we face as a society is CHRIST. He is the only thing solid that will not and can not be shaken in the days that are upon us.

I encourage you to visit our website http://www.totalvictoryexperience.com/ or our YouTube page "The Total Victory Exp" we have tons of messages free for you online that will help you during these times.

Stay Encouraged,
Eboni

My heart is really heavy, heavy because I see so many people hurting. We are living in the day where our economy is failing us. Jobs are unstable, which means money is unstable and when money is unstable it effects EVERYTHING. Health is effected because of stress, marriages are effected because of the stress of lack of money, violence increases because people in desperate situations do desperate things. I look around and I see so many people trusting in and looking to the wrong source for peace and happiness. As a society we feel SECURE because of our possessions, our jobs, our spouses and people, but when these things fail us and our spouses leave, our jobs end, our loved ones die...what are we left with. Do we have anything SOLID within us to keep us?

Contrary to what politicians promise it isn't going to get any better, it's only going to get worse. The economy isn't going to recover, the wars aren't going to stop. Storms and devastation and many other things were all prophesied by Christ and will increase until his return. He ISN'T causing them, God ISN'T causing them; FALLEN MANKIND is causing them. What do you do when the thing that is trying to fix the problem IS the problem? That is where we find ourselves as a nation. Politicians fill us with empty promises, they want to help but the truth is they don't know HOW to help because the real problem isn't war, violence or poverty; the real problem is a SOCIETY and CULTURE without GOD and without CHRIST.

Apart from GOD and HIS wisdom and understanding man is not capable of managing this planet OR even our own lives; and APART from Christ we have no access to GOD. We have a race of people on the planet who think they don't need God and certainly don't need Christ. When the truth is Christ is the only way to God, the only way to access his wisdom, life, strength, joy and peace.

So as a believer what do you do. How do you stay sane in the days that we are living in. You keep your eyes on CHRIST. Continue to learn of him. If you are in a church where man is the focus where you're told every Sunday what you aren't doing, what you need to change, what sin you need to stop in order for God to fellowship with you. Christ isn't the focus and you are being taught to focus on man. Get in a church where Christ is preached and HE is the center of every message. When you focus on HIM you begin to live by HIS mind, HIS wisdom, HIS strength, HIS joy HIS peace. Those things are NEVER shaken or effected by outward circumstances. Let HIM be your life. The only answer to the dilemma that we face as a society is CHRIST. He is the only thing solid that will not and can not be shaken in the days that are upon us.

I encourage you to visit our website http://www.totalvictoryexperience.com/ or our YouTube page "The Total Victory Exp" we have tons of messages free for you online that will help you during these times.

Stay Encouraged,
Eboni

And They Lived (Mostly) Happily Ever After

My husband and I celebrated our 13 year wedding anniversary this past June. We married June 6, 1998. Over all we have had a great marriage. I am really blessed, but even though I am married to a great man NO marriage is without it's problems. I think marriage and the whole nature of what it is means that there will be some difficulties. Think about it you are taking two separate individuals who decide to come together and create a unified life, The two become one.

One of the challenges that plagues my husband and I is the fact that we are COMPLETE opposites personality wise.  He is a mans man and I am a girly woman. He loves theme parks, bowling, trying different restaurants, and I love theater, plays, museums, romance flicks. I am very affectionate, he is NOT. He loves routine, I like to shake things up. So how do two TOTAL complete opposites make it work. Well for one we are unified in the things that matter most. Things like our Faith and beliefs about God, how we want to raise our children, and career goals. Those are the things that really matter where if we differed we would have some major issues. Secondly, we realized that we two individuals have to come together and make ONE NEW MAN.  We don't fully know what that NEW Man will look like but we are having a blast creating him. He is a combination of both my husband and I. I am committed to remain open to getting to know his world and try new things and he does the same for me. Doing that has made a huge difference in our relationship. Prior to doing this how we interacted with each other was greatly affected by our differences.  Once we realized that was a problem we both through communication and understanding realized we had to create a relationship where BOTH parties personalities are reflected and thrive. Now I can happily say that he is open to do things I like and I am open to do things he likes. We also both have committed to try NEW things that neither of us would normally do.

                               (John and I at Maggiano's on our Anniversary)

Keep in mind no marriage is perfect because it has two imperfect people involved, but you have to learn to focus on your partner's strengths. Actually take the time to ENJOY the things about him that you love. FOCUS on those. Many people miss out on enjoying their spouse because they spend so much time focused on what they don't like. He may not be affectionate, but maybe he loves to shower you with great gifts. He may not be as in to the word as you would want, but he is a great father. You may not be able to be a real housewife of Atlanta :-), but he loves to cook and will clean the house. Focus on the positives about your husband and you will see You two can live Mostly Happily Ever After. :-)

My husband and I celebrated our 13 year wedding anniversary this past June. We married June 6, 1998. Over all we have had a great marriage. I am really blessed, but even though I am married to a great man NO marriage is without it's problems. I think marriage and the whole nature of what it is means that there will be some difficulties. Think about it you are taking two separate individuals who decide to come together and create a unified life, The two become one.

One of the challenges that plagues my husband and I is the fact that we are COMPLETE opposites personality wise.  He is a mans man and I am a girly woman. He loves theme parks, bowling, trying different restaurants, and I love theater, plays, museums, romance flicks. I am very affectionate, he is NOT. He loves routine, I like to shake things up. So how do two TOTAL complete opposites make it work. Well for one we are unified in the things that matter most. Things like our Faith and beliefs about God, how we want to raise our children, and career goals. Those are the things that really matter where if we differed we would have some major issues. Secondly, we realized that we two individuals have to come together and make ONE NEW MAN.  We don't fully know what that NEW Man will look like but we are having a blast creating him. He is a combination of both my husband and I. I am committed to remain open to getting to know his world and try new things and he does the same for me. Doing that has made a huge difference in our relationship. Prior to doing this how we interacted with each other was greatly affected by our differences.  Once we realized that was a problem we both through communication and understanding realized we had to create a relationship where BOTH parties personalities are reflected and thrive. Now I can happily say that he is open to do things I like and I am open to do things he likes. We also both have committed to try NEW things that neither of us would normally do.

                               (John and I at Maggiano's on our Anniversary)

Keep in mind no marriage is perfect because it has two imperfect people involved, but you have to learn to focus on your partner's strengths. Actually take the time to ENJOY the things about him that you love. FOCUS on those. Many people miss out on enjoying their spouse because they spend so much time focused on what they don't like. He may not be affectionate, but maybe he loves to shower you with great gifts. He may not be as in to the word as you would want, but he is a great father. You may not be able to be a real housewife of Atlanta :-), but he loves to cook and will clean the house. Focus on the positives about your husband and you will see You two can live Mostly Happily Ever After. :-)